Infertility Etiquette By Rabbi Goldberg

  On November 20th, Rabbi Goldberg of the Boca Raton Synagogue wrote a very meaningful blog post where he accurately described the pain and loneliness associated with infertility, especially in the Jewish community. He also discusses how infertility has impacted biblical figures in the Torah. Rabbi Goldberg states, "Well, those suffering are our loved ones. They are our brothers and sisters and we must bring that level of vigilance and mindfulness to our behavior to ensure that we don’t even unintentionally contribute or compound their already unbearable pain." Rabbi Goldberg points to the leading organization relating to infertility, Resolve. Resolve has a helpful page on its website called infertility etiquette in which they remind us not to be nosy, ask inappropriate questions, make assumptions, gossip, or minimize someone’s challenge. Instead, they say “The best thing you can do is let your infertile friends know that you care. Send them cards. Let them cry on your shoulder. If they are religious, let them know you are praying for them. Offer the same support you would offer a friend who has lost a loved one. Just knowing they can count on you to be there for them lightens the load and lets them know that they aren’t going through this alone.” To read the full blog post, CLICK HERE.

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